Heath:
I disagree as to connotation. The message now is, "If you don't support gay marriage, you are a bigot and a hater of gays."
You may in fact disagree, but you didn't express disagreement here, you only unpacked what I said.
"Don't hate us" is isomorphic with "if you deny us things based only on our expression of love, on the basis of our class" then ispo facto, you're a bigot and a hater. If you want to suggest there's a "middle place"...let's call it indifferent, I would say that's actually CLOSER to "don't hate us" so I stand by my original framing.
I assert that "Don't hate us" means, "don't deny us" in any way that "don't" has demonstrable meaning.
Now let's take on your curious parsing.
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Gays are saying that sexual gay acts must not only be accepted by society but embraced by giving it the specialized treatment reserved for marriage.
Again, you have a curious take here.
First "society" as an abstract doesn't really do anything like you've described.
That is, neither the "lack of acceptance" which you imply, has prevented gay sex. Nor would it's "legal recognition" lead necessarily to "embracing"
For example, did the codification of the protection of interracial marriage say "society must embrace interracial couples or even interracial sexual acts?"
And if so, what would it mean in a practical way. Would it mean "race relations" in America were fixed when it happened? If that is your claim, this is self-evidently untrue.
Does it even mean that the relative rate of occurrence has increased?
If so, do you wish to equate same gender attraction with the normative qualify of interracial couples? Do you think people will "turn gay" because of gay marriage?
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This is not about someone's sexual orientation, but about behaviors, which is lost in the message.
First off, is there any reason it cannot be about both? In fact, I would agree it is about gay sex. It's about the fact the bigots are personally troubled by gay sex. They can't get it out of their mind. And as such, they cannot see past it to see that they to do the exact same things (just with people of an opposite gender) and that it's just as "disgusting"(or more to the point, just as regular and ordinary) as what they do.
Are you really wishing to say that the marriage contract is an "endorsement" of str8 sex? And if so, does that include str8 anal sex? Does it include man-girl, woman-boy pedophilia? If people knew that "marriage" "endorsed" that do you think they'd be too keen?
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Instead, those promoting homosexual marriage are refusing to engage in a discussion about behaviors and instead attacking on the basis that it must be about "who" the person is, not what he "does."
First off, is there any reason you can think for which a better outcome wouldn't be found by looking at both rationally? I for one am more than happy to "discuss" it. (Just keep it PG13) LOL
But to think that "gay sex" happens in a vacuum of behavior that str8 sex is somehow immune to is a proposition which would require some rather unusual proof.
I think it is inherent in modern marriage the idea of "emotions", "love", "commitment", "sacrifice", etc. So to ignore that the topic of marriage by it's very nature exceeds mere behavior seems disingenuous.