Trust in the Lord:
I don't get it.
I know! ;) That's why I keep trying to explain it. ;)
Trust in the Lord:
Why does it bother you that a christian states hell is only for people who don't follow/be with God?
If you word it that way, it doesn't bother me all that much. The original wording wasn't "hell is for those who don't follow God." That I would have no problem with. The wording you used was "hell is for people who choose not to be with God." That's what bothers. That specific choice of words. The "choose not to be with God" is the part that irks me. The reason it bothers me, is that it implies intent--ie, it implies that I don't want to be with God. I'll show you why that's the case later down the page.
Trust in the Lord:
I don't see how that is unclear like you state? I do not see how that is phrased improperly for any person. Everyone here knows I'm christian, and what christian ideas of hell mean. Why would apply non christian meaning to a christian idea?
None of that is what bothers me, TitL. Let me be very clear. I don't mind that you think I'm going to hell. I don't mind that you say I'm going to end up in hell. I don't mind if you say I'm going to hell because I choose not to follow God (though I think it'd be better if you said I'm going to hell because I don't believe in God). None of that is what bothers me. It also doesn't bother me that you've used the word "choice." I agree that choices are being made. That isn't what bothers me. What does bother me is the specific phrasing, which labels the choice as "being with God" or not. The reason that particular phrasing bothers me is that it implies that my objective/intent is to not be with God, and that's not accurate. The way you first phrased your statement made it sound like I don't
want to be with God (or, more to the point, that I want to not be with God). That is not what I want, though. It is not my intent. It's not my goal or objective. I accept that you think it is a
consequence of my decision not to follow God. I don't mind if you say that as a consequence of my choice not to follow God I will not be with God. What I don't like is when you equate the
consequence with the choice itself, because you imply intent or motive that isn't there. If that intent isn't there, it's inaccurate to use a phrasing that implies that it is. Again, I'll show why that implication matters further down the page.
Trust in the Lord:
Tycho, did you actually have a meaning of the phrase that was what I intended?
I'm not sure what you're asking here. Are you asking for how I would prefer you to say it? Or are you asking if I know what you intended to mean? If the former, I would prefer if you said "hell is for people who don't believe in God," or "hell is for people who choose not to follow God." If you're asking if I know what you intended to mean, I'm not 100% certain. I
hope that you just meant hell is for people who don't follow God, but I'm not sure if you actually meant also that people who don't follow God want not to be with God. That last part is what I object to, and want to make sure you don't mean it, or imply it when you make your statement.
Trust in the Lord:
When a LDS talks about prayer, and their prophet. I don't start telling them they are bad, and shouldn't pray for me until they use my term and meaning of prayer to God. You look at the source, and their intent. I don't feel bad when a person who is muslim speaks of prayer to allah. You look at the source.
Good, we're on the same page then. What matters is intent, right? If you say I'm going to hell because I've decided not to follow God, I can look at the source, and be okay with that. I know that's what you believe, and you're not trying to say I've done anything I haven't. However, if you say that I choose not to be with God, then it seems like you're intent is to speak about my motivations/goals/intentions. You're not just talking about your beliefs about hell anymore, but now saying something about me and my aims. The impression I get, is that you're not trying to help me anymore, but that you're trying to paint me as a bad guy. Your intent doesn't seem friendly anymore. It's one thing if we disagree about heaven, hell, and the like. That's not offensive. It's when we disagree about
me that it gets a bit bothersome. When you make statements that imply something untrue about my goals or intentions, then I get offended.
Trust in the Lord:
Here's where we disagree. I am stating you are choosing not to be with God. You've agreed that is factual and true.
No, I haven't! I'll make it very, very clear: I think that is NOT factual, and NOT true. I have chosen
not to follow God. I accept that you think that
as a consequence of that decision, I will not be with God. But I have NOT
chosen not to be with God. If you are right, and I end up in hell because I didn't follow God, that will be and
unintended consequence of my decision. It will be something that I
didn't think would happen.
Trust in the Lord:
The only thing I've equated to be the same are following/desiring to be with. Choices lead to consequences which may be undesired.
Yes! You've equated following to desiring to be with. Those are not the same thing! It is possible to follow God if you don't want to be with Him, and it's possible to want to be with Him if you don't follow Him. The two things are NOT the same. To equate them is the whole problem. It's like equating "wanting to go to jail" with "wanting fast money." They're not the same. One might result from the other, but they're not the same thing, and thus shouldn't be equated.
Trust in the Lord:
Remember the example of the criminal who wanted fast easy money. He wanted the money, but did not want jail. I've said it before, and will say it again. Choice and consequence do not both have to be desired. You can desire a choice, but completely oppose the consequence.
Yes! He wanted the money, but didn't want to go to jail. He went to jail as a consequence of committing a crime, but he didn't want to go to jail. If you said "he chose to go to jail" you'd make it sound like he wanted to go to jail, which would be inaccurate. It's accurate to say he went to jail because of his choice to commit crimes. It's not accurate to say he chose to go to jail. This is precisely what I'm talking about. It's okay for you to say I'm going to hell because of my choice not to follow God. It's not accurate, however, for you to say I choose not to be with God.
Tycho:
God had made a choice to give people free will. As a consequence of that, people have ended up sinning. Thus, by your view, it should be accurate to say that God choose for people to sin. For every murder, it would be accurate to say God chose for that murder to happen. Also as a result of God's decision, people go to hell, and thus aren't with God. So, by your way of using "choice," it would be accurate to say that people end up in hell because God decides not to be with them.
Trust in the Lord:
No, I disagree. That's not my view. God chose free will, but He still wants people to chose what is good. He knows they won't always, but God has planned to deal with that as well. For us, God prepared to take the punishment for our actions. Literally paying the price for all of our sins. Jesus went to the cross.
It's not that God doesn't want to be with His people, but God does allow for people to choose not to be with Him.
Okay, now we get to the part where it's clear that you actually understand, at some level, what I'm saying. You don't think it's accurate to say that God chose for murder to happen. Why not? Because God
doesn't want murder to happen. It's an
unintended consequence of his choice to give people free will. He knows it will happen (unlike me, who doesn't actually think he will end up in hell for his choice), but it's not what he chooses to happen, right? It sounds bad when I say "God chooses for murders to happen," doesn't it? Why does it sound bad? Because when I say that, it sounds like I'm saying that God
wants murders to happen, when He really doesn't. That's the implication of intent that I've been talking about. If you say "X chooses Y" then you give the impression that X
wants Y. If Y is actually an undesired side effect of a different choice, then the X chooses Y statement obscures the truth, and implies something not true.
Let me make this as clear as I can:
chooser: Tycho God
choice: Follow/not follow free will/not free will
unwanted
consequence: ends up not with God people murder
wrong way Tycho chooses not to be God chooses for people to murder
to describe: with God. each other.
right way Tycho ends up not with God people murder people as a result
to describe: as a result of his decision of Gods decision to give them
not to follow God. free will
Does that help at all? Do you see now why it might bother me when you say I choose to not be with God? It's the same thing as me saying God chooses for murders to happen. It's not that I'm denying that I've made a choice, and it's not that I'm upset that you're saying the consequence of that choice will be me not being with God. It's that I don't like the way you imply that the consequence is my goal. Just as "God choose for people to murder" makes it sound like God wants people to murder, saying "Tycho chooses to not be with God" makes it sound like I want to not be with God. Does you see how the way you phrase something can imply intent that isn't really there?
Tycho:
You're missing the point yet again.
Trust in the Lord:
That's just silly. Just because I disagree doesn't mean I'm missing the point. If disagreement meant missing the point, then you would be missing the point quite a lot. It's a silly thing to say.
I'm not saying you're missing the point because you disagree with me. If I were, yes, that'd be silly. The reason I'm saying you're missing the point is that the way you respond shows not that you disagree with me, but that you didn't understand what I'm trying to say. I say "you're missing the point" to indicate that what you think I'm trying to say, isn't actually what I'm trying to say. I get the impression you think I'm arguing that there's no choice being made. You say "But you still made a choice!" and things like that, which sound like you think I'm saying there was no choice. But that's not my position. I agree there is a choice. My point isn't if there's a choice or not, as we both agree there is a choice. My point is
what do we actually choose. When you say "But you still made a choice!" it sounds like you don't understand what my point is, and thus I say "you're missing the point." Make sense?
To be clear: If I say "you're missing the point" it's not meant as an insult. It's not meant to mean "no, you're wrong!" It's more like "yes, what you say is true, but that's not what I'm talking about." If I tell you you're missing the point, don't take it as an attack, take it as an indication that I mean something different than you think I mean.
Trust in the Lord:
And I still feel that choice is choice, regardless of how easy it comes to you because of your beliefs.
Yes, everyone agrees that a choice is a choice. I don't think you'll find anyone who will disagree with that. Again, though, that's not what I'm disagreeing with. We agree that a choice is being made. Where we seem to disagree is over whether
what you believe is a choice, or if it's just something that influences your choice.
Tycho:
Yes, but none of that was an issue of belief. In your analogy, my choice was how to answer. Answering is an action, not a belief. We choose our actions, we don't choose our beliefs.
Trust in the Lord:
And I think at this point that analogy was pretty clear beliefs are not important to making a choice. Our beliefs give us reasons for our choice, but that doesn't alter that we are making a choice.
Yes, your statement is true, but misses the point of what I'm saying. I'm NOT arguing that we're not making a choice. What I'm arguing is that our beliefs themselves are not something we can choose. We can choose how we act, and our beliefs may affect that. But we can't choose our beliefs at will. Would you agree to that?
Trust in the Lord:
It's clear my choice is to follow God, while your choice is not to follow God. Your choice is to follow your own understanding of the situation. My choice is not to follow your understanding of the situation.
Whatever you choose is your choice.
Yes, we all agree on that. No one is saying otherwise. What I'm arguing is that we don't choose our beliefs. We choose our actions, but our beliefs cannot be changed at will. Would you agree with that?