phoenix9lives
 member, 1064 posts
 GENE POLICE!  YOU!
 GET OUTTA THE POOL!
Wed 5 May 2021
at 03:32
Cultural issues
Take it from a guy who is on his third marriage, even the best relationships require a lot of work and compromise.
GreenTongue
 member, 970 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Wed 5 May 2021
at 13:50
Argh
In reply to SunRuanEr (msg # 1831):

Sadly, train wrecks have to be experienced personally.
I on the other hand. am in what was basically an arranged marriage.
Like roses, there are thorns but, this year will be the 36th.

Maybe it will be like a "Near Death Experience" and transform them both. (Odds are against it but it happens.)
OceanLake
 supporter, 1157 posts
Wed 5 May 2021
at 18:47
Argh
A "something" that just struck me: When contemplating marriage, consider how well you like the bread in the relationship, not the cake.
Jewwk of Shuu
 member, 42 posts
 "I cast: Pro: Sandwich"
 GM: "But WHY?!"
Wed 5 May 2021
at 21:15
Argh
Marriage is like the Lockhorns.

If you're not Leroy and your wife isn't Loretta (or vice versa) then you're in the wrong comic strip. :|
Rockwolf66
 member, 71 posts
Sun 9 May 2021
at 01:45
Family
It turns out that I have Two Half-Sisters. One of them just made first contact through Ancestry.

So I already knew that our father was a liar and a cheat. So now he has more Karmic debt that he will never repay in this lifetime. He left a woman without a family as her Bio Mother wanted nothing to do with her.

I have yet to meet her in person but she has family now if she wants them.
Piestar
 member, 895 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Sun 9 May 2021
at 05:58
Family
In reply to Rockwolf66 (msg # 1837):

That's neat, did you already know the first one?

I was contacted by a half-brother years ago. My mother was from the generation where her parents pretty much forced her to put the child up for adoption. Luckily he seemed to have had a good life. Sadly he didn't contact us until years after our mother had passed, but I converted all out home movies from 8mm to VCR for him.
Rockwolf66
 member, 72 posts
Sun 9 May 2021
at 19:13
Re: Family
Piestar:
In reply to Rockwolf66 (msg # 1837):

That's neat, did you already know the first one?

I was contacted by a half-brother years ago. My mother was from the generation where her parents pretty much forced her to put the child up for adoption. Luckily he seemed to have had a good life. Sadly he didn't contact us until years after our mother had passed, but I converted all out home movies from 8mm to VCR for him.

Yeah I knew of and get along great with the first Half-Sister. Dad was married three times and was not faithful to any of his wives. We suspected that there are more siblings out there. We now have proof.

Well She wanted more family than her kids so she's getting one now. She's survived a 3 hour conversation with out Mutual half sister. They seem to be getting along like a house on fire.
Piestar
 member, 902 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Sun 23 May 2021
at 23:57
Re: Family
Not sure where this vent is aimed, but it is frustrating sometime to be roleplaying a character, and getting no sense that anyone reads your stuff. I try to work things other people do and say into my posts, but it is rare to find someone who seems to even notice, much less reciprocate.
GreenTongue
 member, 973 posts
 Game Archaeologist
Mon 24 May 2021
at 17:34
Re: Family
In reply to Piestar (msg # 1840):

Lot's of "snap posts" to make an update sounds like.

It's frustrating to me that people don't refresh themselves on what has come before just "post for the moment".

"I'm bartering with the shopkeeper."
"I raise my mug in toast to the table."
Just because the active play is at the tavern doesn't mean you jumped there to cut into the conversation.
Isida KepTukari
 member, 380 posts
 Elegant! Arrogant! Smart!
Sat 29 May 2021
at 08:31
Re: Family
It's been a hell of a week.  Car incurred a repair worth more than it was, so traded the car for a newer one last Friday.  Worked butt off on Monday night painting floor lines and safety barriers because of a CEO tour at the factory.  That Tuesday afternoon, Husband took our 18-year-old cat Timmy to the vet because he'd been a little sick for the past few days.  They called at 3 to say it might be serious and they needed to do an ultrasound.  Called back at 5 to say that our beloved cat was beyond help.  We had to put him down, though at least we got a chance to see him, pet him, kiss him, and tell him we love him.  We were both sobbing basket cases, and I called off work because there was no way that 1.) I was going to be able to pay attention to anything and 2.) Husband and I needed to be together to support each other.

That night, we both realized that our house was intolerably quiet and empty without a feline presence.  And Timmy had been such a boon to both of us.  That next morning we went to a shelter and adopted two cats.  Those two have been a tremendous help with the loss, and we're really glad to welcome them into our house.

But holy heck, could we slow down the ride for a while, life?!
Piestar
 member, 904 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Sat 29 May 2021
at 17:12
Re: Family
An old peeve, made new again here recently.

It stems back to when I was a DM in the Army, and we were getting ready to game, when one Michael Ramos vanished on us. We found out later he had decided to go to a movie, mere minutes before the game started.

His response (I wont call it am excuse, as he felt there was nothing wrong with his actions) was that 'it was just a game'.

And while it is just a game, when people flake like that, it is the people they play with they are disrespecting, not the game. It is the commitment to the people not that game, that is the issue.

Grump, grump...

Anyway.
ladysharlyne
 subscriber, 3098 posts
 Member before Oct 2005
 THE GLASS IS HALF FULL
Sat 29 May 2021
at 22:25
Constantly the victim lol
Age-old problem here, there, everywhere and one of my biggest pet peeves too but nothing you can do but delete, delete, delete.  I mean if someone leaves the game hanging like you said, then it is disrespect to not only you but all the players like you said.  If a player lets me know they need to be gone but are coming back that is fine.  It is the flakes that join, don't post but maybe a post or two then just disappear, when players are in a game they should at least be courteous.  I am gone often from my own games but I let my players know it is my illness that takes me away, or other things but they always know I will be back.  This is caring and common courtesy, Is that so hard for someone to do!  I agree completely with you Piestar.

Before it is said, I DO know that there are cases that something has happened to that player either health wise or computer wise but in the latter there are phones, libraries, friend's computer, contact to let you know something is going on is available.
Piestar
 member, 905 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Sun 30 May 2021
at 08:51
Constantly the victim lol
In reply to ladysharlyne (msg # 1844):

Real life is certainly outside of the bounds of this peeve. It does bug me when real life interferes with my plans, but I am mad at life, not the person. This peeve is specifically people who blow off the game for trivial reasons.
ShadoPrism
 member, 1379 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Tue 1 Jun 2021
at 21:40
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
I just got out of the hospital - the Infectious Disease doctor prescribed a strong antibiotic for me - one that states in its description DO NOT GIVE TO DIABETICS, which I am.
I had 2 doses in the hospital and already show some potentially dangerous side effects; bleed like a stuck pig, just from a simple finger stick, also sweating like mad, got bad shakes (which makes typing this a real challenge) and my vision keeps going in and out of focus, which makes it dangerous for me to drive. Which means I can't safely go get my meds, or go to any of the prescribed doctors appointments. (The local bus does not have a stop anywhere near me and a taxi is beyond my poor ability to pay for.)
I tried to call them about changing the meds but they just told me to see about staying in the hospital longer - After I had already been discharged. The hospital sent me home anyway. (nice Lyft driver though)
Manticore
 member, 451 posts
 Cthulhu gamed with me
 HE lost 2d6 SAN points
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 05:16
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1846):

That sounds like an unsafe discharge, Robert. And possible medical malpractice on the part of the doctor in charge of you there.
ShadoPrism
 member, 1380 posts
 OCGD-Obsessive-Compulsive
 Gamer-Disorder
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 11:40
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to Manticore (msg # 1847):

Unfortunetly its par for the course for the local hospital group - they have the worst reputation in the region for pretty much anything medical except Heart problems.
Most hospitals, as an example, serve turkey on wheat sandwiches as a quick meal for patents, Piedmont serves peanut butter and jelly crustless sandwiches (the kind you can get in a grocery). They have nothing for anyone who is allergic to peanuts, is diabetic, or other such conditions and their food service does not really care. (Their diabetic diet plan includes high fructose fruits, such as canned peaches and pineapples, with every meal.)
I really don't know how they are still in business, save they are the Only hospital in this city.
Piestar
 member, 906 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 13:03
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
What a nightmare! You should be able to find a lawyer who would take this on at no cost to you, that hospital should end up paying out the nose for their behavior. Unbearably unsafe and uncouth.
MelJill
 member, 71 posts
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 13:32
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
https://www.jointcommission.or...oncern-or-complaint/

The above is no cost.
V_V
 member, 948 posts
 Resting. I hope to find
 peace and vigor return.
Wed 2 Jun 2021
at 21:39
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1846):

Sad to hear it. I had medical malpractice suit I was afraid to pursue, for similar reason; very poor. I hope that if you have case, you can get some boon of fortune to show that path to you.

However, my biggest concern is for your health. I had nowehre near the situation you did, but I had an allergic reaction to interraction with my Haldol, Remeron and Lexapro (all generic, but better searched by brand name). I had delusions and paranoia, called my mother in the middle of the night telling her I was god. Ruined a friendship calling them about my sister's boyfriend, who in reality was scumbag, but I thought was at my door.

Basically it's a blessing I called the cops and they just thought "this guy is high" and didn't arrest me. I was not in situation to drive, and so walked. It was quite bad, but never directly affected my health. Like I didn't have heart palpitations, like you're describing (#NotaDoctor). Still it affected me in the longterm, even if the physical symptoms faded.

That wasn't the malpractice suit I mentioned by the way.

I tell this story to show solidarity. I worry that you need to fight an infection, for whatever you were in for, be it surgery of illness, but also that the antibiotic has poisoned you, effectively. I really hope you can get some aid! You've had it rough! Aren't you who had the problem with the dentist and heart problems? Maybe I'm mixed up, and if I am just understand someone posted here about that, and I just got mixed up.

Can't really comment of RL politics, but I hope you can get some aid where you live. Best wishes. I know that's little good in practice, wishes won't fix problems. Sadly, all I can say is I feel for you, comrade.
Bastian
 member, 48 posts
Thu 3 Jun 2021
at 01:31
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
In reply to ShadoPrism (msg # 1846):

Sorry to hear that, it must be a frightening and annoying situation.

Did your doctor explain why he'd give you that antibiotic? Doctors have to weigh the benefits from side effects which sometimes means discomfort/pain/etc. Though the doctor should make sure you understand why or what can/could happen.

There's also always the option to switch doctors and, don't cite me on this, I've heard that there are places where you could get help to pay hospital bills from the hospital directly (especially if they gave you antibiotics that might harm you without your consent/knowledge)
Evil Empryss
 supporter, 1577 posts
 Insert witty and
 appropriate quote here
Fri 4 Jun 2021
at 05:44
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Advice from someone with family in the medical field: do not trust that your doctor has read your records! ALWAYS bring up whether or not a new med will react with your other issues/known allergies! Make the doctor check, and then double-check with a nurse or (preferably) a pharmacist for adverse reactions. Doctors can have a bad habit of getting hyper-focused on the one thing they're treating you for and forget that you are a person with other conditions and medications they may have to take into consideration. Maybe you still won't have a better option, but at least you'll know what to expect when you take it.

I always thought it was just the VA that was bad about this, but I've found it true in the private sector, too.
Brianna
 member, 2239 posts
Fri 4 Jun 2021
at 19:28
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
I always ask my pharmacist about my meds.  (One good reason why you should always deal with just one pharmacy)  I haven't found that the doctor seems to notice what else I'm taking, even other things he's prescribed. While the pharmacy tends to look at the whole picture, including all the over the counter things like vitamins that I take.
Fyrerain
 member, 101 posts
Sat 5 Jun 2021
at 21:50
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Don't trust medical staff to pay attention to your medical restrictions. They'll make you waste time listing them, reciting them, and still prescribe on autopilot. I had a minor surgery ~7 years ago, and stressed to the intake nurse, the anesthesiologist, and the doctor that I am allergic to Cipro and ALL opiods. So guess what prescriptions I was sent home with post-op? Thankfully, the pharmacist was a friend and caught it.

I have a surgery on Monday. Yesterday I had several phone calls with different people at the hospital, and every time my drug allergies came up,they recited a few of the common opiods as if I were only allergic to those specific ones. I corrected them - and when I'm released on Tuesday, if I'm still out of it, the friend picking me up knows to check my scripts. She's had to sit with me at the pharmacy before, waiting an hour or more for the doctor to get back from his lunch break so he can send over new scripts of drugs I'm not allergic to.

Few doctors recheck the charts before prescribing. They use their standards by default.

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Piestar
 member, 907 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Sun 6 Jun 2021
at 17:57
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Nothing new, but damn useless, annoying HOA's. Been an enormous branch down for almost a month in the front area. Grounds crew ignores it. Huge hole in the street for a month, obstructing a fire hydrants. They finally got to that, but it took way too long. And every time I contact them to do anything, they send me some little harassing note, this time because some nasty neighbor let their dog crap in my yard and left it there. Seems like something the grounds crew should clean up, if they aren't going to make the effort to spot the owners from being such nasty people.
Grrr....
Piestar
 member, 909 posts
 once upon a time...
 ...there was a little pie
Fri 11 Jun 2021
at 03:27
Are the doctors Trying to kill me
Frustrated with game masters who seem unwilling to move things along. Really considering dropping a few games. Pacing is so important.