charlotteen:
Your the bad guy you fall in the same group as my dad
Men
Also you don't share enough to be trusted and are pushy and inconsiderate
If kag wants to be pro life or anti pro life that is her choice and any decent human would respect that choice with out question
That's what the right to choice is
Yes everyone is the bad guy till they prove otherwise with me
It's a self preservation thing
I've got to agree with Heath on his response to this, Char. Not all men are bad people. In fact, the majority of my closest friends (and some of the people who I would swear would… maybe not die for me, but would definitely fight for my honor if it came down to it) are male. Heck, there's a man I've known almost my entire life who I call my "brother". We're not related by blood, but he treats me as his little sister. He's frustrating sometimes, in the way that all siblings are, but I know that if anyone ever tried to hurt me, he would go after them with no hesitation.
It's a bit unfair to accord me the right to believe what I want to while denying that same right to anyone else. I don't expect anyone to accept my beliefs unconditionally (especially not Heath), although I do expect them to give my arguments as much consideration as I give theirs (and on that particular subject I've given the other side a great deal of consideration since it's one of the subjects that's so common in the media)
Considering everyone to be guilty until proven innocent is a horrible way to live. I makes existing in society at large a terribly stressful place, even worse if you already have anxiety issues. It means you can never fully trust anyone. Self-preservation is all well and good, but self-preserving to the point of denying yourself trust in anyone is lonely.
Heath and I may have our disagreements, even come almost to the brink of all-out verbal warfare, but at the end of the day, we're still… I don't know if "friends" is the right term, since we only know each other through this board, but we're certainly civil enough most of the time. Even respect each other. I say what I do about him
because I've gotten to know him through his posts over the past several years, in which time we've both shared many things about ourselves. He's not a villain. Yes, he can be pushy when he goes on a tear, he could even, reasonably, be called inconsiderate.
Heath might irritate me to the point of insanity at times, but I don't think I would ever call him a "bad guy".
*hugs Char* I still care about you too. I don't know what your dad did that would give you such a horrible opinion of men as a species. You've been through way more in your relatively short life so far than anyone should have to go through in a lifetime. But I can't and won't back you in an opinion that I don't agree with. Instead, I'll do as I would for any of my friends and tell you that you're wrong, and why you're wrong. I'll give you the information you don't have, or that you've misunderstood so that you can revise your point of view accordingly. I'll do it as gently as possible, because I
don't like seeing other people in pain, but I'll still do it. Because if you're my friend, so is everyone else here. And I will defend ALL of my friends fiercely and without apology.
Except 'kimi. Because she's actually my sister, and that's different.