Re: Alphabet Conversation XXV
Communication is key for that very reason (addressing Kagura), because we can't read each others minds, and what's obviously to one person, is not to another. But I do think it makes more sense when I try to put myself in others shoes, just can't go too much to my past experience. Though I have "gotten butterflies" and what not before, I never act on it, unless the relationship makes sense. If I can't see the relationship being long term then I won't waste my time. (Though definitely there is uncertainty in any relationship at first, I can often tell when there are red flags, or differences that would prevent the relationship for being long term, and I know it's a bad idea to go into a relationship with plans to change the other person, or expectations that they will change on their own.)
So partly because of that, I don't see the romance side as being a good indicator of how good a relationship is, and tend to not put as much importance on it myself. However, I can see it as being a cherry on top if the relationship is already good. Then there's the problem of what is considered romantic varies from person to person. To me I think the main thing that's romantic is simply doing something selflessly for the other person with genuine motives (not to try and get something out of them). Then of course, there's the physical side to the relationship which can be complicated because of my personal/moral/religious beliefs.
OOC: This thread is getting to be longer and longer posts it seems